My definition of Love...
This is going to be a hard one to really put into words. I don't really believe that love can be described in a definitive manner. It can happen anywhere, any time, unexpected or not.
I knew before I had them that I was going to love my children with every fiber of my being. And with every day that I spend with them that bond grows and I know that I couldn't picture my life without them. They are each a part of me in their own special way. And it pains me to see them hurting, and I rejoice in their successes. I guess expected is the wrong way to describe it. Natural may be a better word to use. Same for the love I have for my parents and brothers and sisters. That's just the way it has always been and always will be. A natural occurrence.
Although unnatural isn't exactly the way I would describe the love for my husband. We sort of found each other and sort of found out how much we fit over time. The longer I am with him, the more I fall in love with him. We learn things from each other and grow just by being with each other. But it is very hard to define it. I can't tell you what I mean to him, that's for him to define. But he makes me feel like I could go out and make the impossible happen if I really put mind to it. He makes me feel like a good person and a good mother. I trust him with everything that I have. It's not a perfect thing. But I don't believe that anything is. We make mistakes. We hurt each other once in a while. We make up. (I like making up.) He can still kiss me and make toes curl (as my mother puts it.)
You know that corny saying from Jerry McGuire? "You complete me..." Well I don't really think I need anyone to complete me, because I am a whole person. But I do think my husband compliments me. He brings out the good in me and I hope I do him. At the same time, I am learning to love myself. It's a hard thing to get to know oneself. But very slowly I am learning. And all the while I am trying to continue to love everyone else in my life.
So I guess that's not really a definition so much as a description. Love is the feeling you get when you are with beautiful people.
- Stuff about stuff - Day 5