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Stuff about stuff - Days 7, 8 & 9
bizlittlemomma
Wow, I'm far behind. I guess I try to get caught up while I have the opportunity.

Day 07 – Your best friend, in great detail -

Well, I've had a lot of different best friends over my lifetime. Lot's in high school. Loads in grade school. Not so many right after high school or when I had Joshua. I feel like I lost the ability somehow to make friends. I had to relearn how. So when we moved to New Brunswick I went back to work at a movie store and met a very vibrant lady who was around my age. We probably weren't the two you would automatically put together. I was pretty quiet and very reserved and she was outspoken and well...typical of a french person. Colorful. :P And I'm sure she would admit to this very description and be very proud of it. We got to know each other through work but continued it outside of work. She was a great support for me and a lot of fun to be around. She taught me to think outside my own box and to have a little fun once in a while and I think I taught her some things, but you'd have to ask her that. :) Even though we had to move away from there we still keep in touch and are still great friends at a distance.
When we moved here, it was hard. I had just had my second baby. I made a promise to myself that I would get out and meet people so that I wouldn't isolate myself as I had with Joshua. So out I went. To breastfeeding support group, to hockey with Joshua. Still nobody I could relate to. This town was so hard to make friends in. People already seem to have friends and nobody these days bothers visiting the way our parents always did. Relationships don't feel the same as they once did. So I ended up a little isolated and got a little down. Then I went to work at Wal-Mart. I wasn't expecting a lot. I thought most of the people that worked there were young and in a different world than myself. But it was a way for me to get out. So I tried. I met a few people, and through those people I met my friend Marlene. She came to my house for a girls poker night and I immediately felt as though we were kindrid spirits. We wound up becoming fast friends. She has children around the same age as mine. Our husbands are similar in personality. So we have a lot to talk about. Through the low times in my life here she has been there for me. While my husband has been away she has been my solace. It's nice to have a friend you can depend on and have fun with. I'd feel pretty alone without her.
And I can't end this without mentioning my sister Amanda. We've had ups and downs in our life and I don't know where I would be without her. We don't always see eye to eye. But we love each other and support each other through it all. She was here when I had Alexander and I can tell you I don't think I would have made it through without her. And she braved a plane to do it. :P I don't think she'll ever get on one again though. I know she's the one best friend that will always be there for me. So I guess we're better than best friends. We're sisters.

Day 08 – A moment, in great detail -

Boy this one is hard. There have been so many memorable moments in my lifetime. It's hard to write about a single moment. I suppose I could write about the day I went to do my drivers test. I had been taking driving lessons. And the night before I took the test I had made several mistakes on my pre-test drive. So I don't really know how I expected to do the next day. Nevertheless I showed up. My instructor sat down to wait and away we went. I drove, I talked, I followed his instructions. And before I knew it we were back at the office. After I parked he took a few more notes and he said "Okay let's get you in and get you taken care of." I was so exited and blurted out "So I passed?" with a tad bit of shock. Even funnier was when I walked in, gave my instructor the thumbs up to say I had passed and he had the most surprised expression I have ever seen on a person. :) It definitely made my experience memorable. And I'm happy to have the freedom of a license. I don't know what I did without it.

Day 09 – Your beliefs, in great detail

I believe in hope. I believe that the world is a beautiful place, but sometimes you have to look for that beauty. I believe that we can effect other people's lives in ways that we don't even realize. And that if we spend more of our time doing that in a positive way more good will come of that than being negative. I believe in making the most of every moment we have because in the blink of an eye they are gone. I don't believe that you always get what you put into things. But if you don't bother working hard nothing good will ever come out of anything. Basically, do nothing, get nothing. I believe in my husband and our marriage. I believe I have strength and potential. I believe in doing things on your own terms on your own time. I don't believe anyone fits a particular mold and that if more people appreciated the differences in people the world would be a more beautiful place. I believe religion should be in a persons heart and not defined by the judgmental people on this earth. It should be personal. I believe in listening to others ideas and learning whatever I can through experience. I believe in the lifelong pursuit of knowledge. I'm sure I'm leaving out a lot more beliefs but it's a hard thing to put to paper. I suppose if you want to know more, you'll have to ask about it. :)

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I went through a long period, when the boys were little, where I felt isolated and friendless as well. It was a difficult time for connecting. We both had our children young - people our own age were in a different place, and the people who were in the same place were older, better established in life, which often led them to think they knew more. I found them very difficult to engage with as a result.

Your driving story makes me laugh. I keep thinking about using my recently acquired learner's permit as a meme topic, too. :)

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